Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Stress Management

I read this somewhere and I'm just sharing it here again.

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How heavy is this glass of water?


The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you have to hold it.
  • If you hold it for 1 minute, it would not really be a problem.
  • If you hold it for 1 hour, you will be having an ache in your arm.
  • If you hold it for 1 day, you will have to call for an ambulance.
In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer you hold it, the heavier it becomes. And this applies the same with stress. The longer you carry the burden, the heavier it becomes and soon it would be impossible to carry.

As with the glass of water, we have to put it down and rest for a while before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can continue holding up that glass of water.

So whatever burdens you are carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can. So, my friend, put down anything that may be a burden to you right now. Don't pick it up until you've rested for a while.

Here are some great ways of dealing with the burdens of life:
Accept that some days you're the pigeon and some days you're the statue.

Always keep your words soft and sweet just in case you have to eat them.

Always wear stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.

When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.

If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.

Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.

You may be the only person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.

We could learn a lot from crayons...some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names and all are different colours, but they all have to live in the same box.

A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.

Saturday, August 21, 2010

Why We Should Go Home On Time

The following article is not written by me but was shared with me by my cousin. I'm sharing it here for the benefit of others.

I used to be one of those who worked long hours. That's because my job requires me to do so and secondly is because my ex-boss finds it disturbing if her subordinates leave the office before she does. And what did I get from working late? Nothing. It only caused me to be tired most of the time, stressed out and have lesser time for my family. I was rewarded with the ultimate prize of hormone imbalance. Was it worth it jeopardizing my own health for work? Definitely not!


Journal : Why We Should Go Home On Time

Mr. Narayana Murthy is undoubtedly one of the most famous persons from Karnataka. He is known not just for building the biggest IT Empire in India but also for his simplicity. Almost every important dignitary visits InfoSys campus. He delivered an interesting speech during an employee session with another IT company in India. He is incidentally, one of the top 50 influential people of Asia according to an Asiaweek publication and also the new IT Advisor to the Thailand Prime Minister.

Extract of Mr. Narayana Murthy's Speech during Mentor Session:

I know people who work 12 hours a day, six days a week, or more. Some people do so because of a work emergency where the long hours are only temporary. Other people I know have put in these hours for years. I do not know if they are working all these hours, but I do know they are in the office this long. Others put in long office hours because they are addicted to the workplace.

Whatever the reason for putting in overtime, working long hours over the long term is harmful to the person and to the organization. There are things managers can do to change this for everyone's benefit. Being in the office long hours, over long periods of time, makes way for potential errors.

My colleagues who are in the office long hours frequently make mistakes caused by fatigue. Correcting these mistakes requires their time as well as the time and energy of others. I have seen people work Tuesday through Friday to correct mistakes made after 5 PM on Monday.

Another problem is that people who are in the office long hours are not pleasant company. They often complain about other people (who are not working as hard); they are irritable, or cranky, or even angry. Other people avoid them. Such behaviour poses problems, where work goes much better when people work together instead of avoiding one another.

As Managers, there are things we can do to help people leave the office. First and foremost is to set the example and go home ourselves. I work with a manager who chides people for working long hours. His words quickly lose their meaning when he sends these chiding group e-mails with a time-stamp of 2 AM, Sunday.

Second is to encourage people to put some balance in their lives. For instance, here is a guideline I find helpful:

1. Wake up, eat a good breakfast, and go to work.

2. Work hard and smart for eight or nine hours.

3. Go home.

4. Read the books/comics, watch a funny movie, dig in the dirt, play with your kids, etc.

5. Eat well and sleep well.

This is called recreating. Doing steps 1, 3, 4, and 5 enable step 2. Working regular hours and recreating daily are simple concepts. They are hard for some of us because that requires 'personal change'. They are possible since we all have the power to choose to do them.

In considering the issue of overtime, I am reminded of my oldest son. When he was a toddler, if people were visiting the apartment, he would not fall asleep no matter how long the visit was, and no matter what time of day it was. He would fight off sleep until the visitors left. It was as if he was afraid that he would miss some thing. Once our visitors' left, he would go to sleep. By this time, however, he was over tired and would scream through half the night with nightmares. He, my wife, and I, all paid the price for his fear of missing out.

Perhaps some people put in such long hours because they do not want to miss anything when they leave the office. The trouble with this is that events will never stop happening. That is life! Things happen 24 hours a day. Allowing for little rest is not ultimately practical. So, take a nap. Things will happen while you are asleep, but you will have the energy to catch up when you wake.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Can't Sleep...

I went to sleep at about 9ish and I woke up at about 11ish sneezing myself to death. Here I am wide awake with runny nose, drinking a cup of Fruit Tree Mango juice (with Nata De Coco bits) and making a blog entry.

Things I did together with hubby during the recent weekend:
  1. Sleep.
  2. Had lunch with a group of ex-colleagues in KL.
  3. Took Ivan, Yoon Wei and their mom to shop for wedding stuff which includes red and auspicious stuff, wine and gold jewelry.
  4. Had dinner at Cravings, 1 Utama with my mom, dad, Ruth & Adelene.
  5. Send dad home to Shah Alam.
  6. Watch DVD.
  7. Make canopy rental arrangements for Ivan's house during his coming wedding.
  8. Accompany Ivan and his mom to Ikea for shopping.
  9. Shop for groceries at Giant, Puchong.
  10. Watch DVD.
  11. Had instant noodle at home.
I'm counting the days till the long holiday at the end of the this month. My long holiday will start from 27 through 31 August and that will be 5 days in total! These are the things I have lined up:
  1. Clean the entire house and rearrange stuff.
  2. Sleep...Swimming...Cooking.
  3. Help out with Ivan's "Ko Tai Lai" ceremony.
  4. Sleep...Swimming...Cooking.
  5. Maybe make a day's trip up to Cameron Highlands with hubby to buy fresh vegetables and fruits.
I think I'm feeling sleepy again. Will try and go back to sleep now.